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Is Fred in the Refrigerator?: Taming OCD and Reclaiming My Life

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"A masterfully written memoir-meets-educational-meets-inspirational tale that I couldn't put down." Ashley Smith, PhD, coauthor of Childhood Anxiety Disorders A gripping memoir that gives voice to the invisible, life-destroying power of obsessive-compulsive disorder, and how one woman stood up to fear, embraced the unknown, and reclaimed her life. Even at nine years old, Shala Nicely knew there was nothing normal about the horrifying thoughts that tormented her at bedtime, or the nightly rituals she summoned to beat them back. More importantly, she knew to obey her mind's Rule 1: keep its secret, or risk losing everything and everyone she loved. It would be almost two decades before she learned the name of the menacing monster holding her hostage: obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). It would take years longer to piece together the keys to recovery that would change her life forever, beginning with the day she broke her monster's silence. Writing with wry wit, unflinching candor, and resounding insight, Shala takes readers on a riveting journey into the dark and dimly understood inner workings of OCD and its frequent co-conspirator, body dysmorphic disorder (BDD). Thwarted repeatedly as she struggles to escape the clutches of these formidable foes, she finally stumbles upon an unexpected path to freedom. As she journeys into the heart of fear to reclaim her life, she weaves a self-compassionate roadmap to recovery: to living in an uncertain world and being happy anyway. With an Afterword by Reid Wilson, PhD offering powerful guidance for applying Shala's strategies in daily life, Is Fred in the Refrigerator? will leave legions of those affected by mental illness feeling seen, understood, and empowered. "A memoir ... about all of us with this kind of mind." Jon Hershfield, MFT, author of Overcoming Harm OCD "One of the clearest descriptions of the experience of OCD ... you'll cry, you'll cheer, and you'll put your shoulders back with Shala as she conquers the OCD demon." Randy O. Frost, PhD, Harold and Elsa Siipola Israel Professor of Psychology at Smith College and coauthor of the New York Times bestseller Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things Read more Read less

Publisher ‏ : ‎ Nicely Done, LLC (May 23, 2018)


Language ‏ : ‎ English


Paperback ‏ : ‎ 312 pages


ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1732177007


ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 00


Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 11.2 ounces


Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.25 x 0.71 x 8 inches


Best Sellers Rank: #114,131 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #63 in Obsessive Compulsive Disorder #4,069 in Memoirs (Books) #14,635 in Self-Help (Books)


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  • Go buy this book immediately if you or someone you know has OCD!
This is a powerful, entertaining, and deeply moving account of a girl growing up with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and not knowing what it was. Just realizing she was different, and fearing she would never get better, or even be able to tell anyone what she was going through, she suffered for decades. Even as an adult, she could not find proper help for many years and suffered tremendously. You will be riveted to this story, and feel on the spot with Shala as she goes through life attempting to please her OCD monster and its demanding rules. What makes this true story even better is that Shala went back to school and made a mid life change in careers. She became a therapist specializing in treating OCD. She has become the expert she wishes she herself could have found earlier in life and now has devoted her life to helping others. I have had the privilege of meeting Shala at the International OCD Foundation conferences. She is a delight in person, and writes true to who she is. This is the best autobiography on living with OCD since Jeff Bell's terrific memoir, Rewind, Replay, Repeat. You won't be disappointed. If you have OCD, or know someone who does, waste no time in getting this amazing book. I am also personally a sufferer of OCD who became a therapist specializing in treating the disorder. I encourage my clients to read this book to better understand themselves and the disorder. Shala and her book are great gifts to our community. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on August 31, 2018 by Joy

  • Pretty Good, But Intense
The author is a type A over achiever who has been successful in everything in her life. Keep it on mind that althoughnshe has suffered at the hands of her OCD, she has been married 2 or 3 times, steadily employed at good, high paying jobs, graduated from college, got advanced degrees, and when she vouldnt find a therapist, managed her own therapy. If your own life hasnt been as succesful, its a bit hard to relate. I' m not saying i was jealous, but as someone whose OCD has made it hard to leave the house, it was really overwhelming to take in all this achievment and success and still understand the depth of suffering she experienced. I guess it just goes to show that mental illness can strike anyone, anywhere, and you really cant tell by looking at someone's life. The ideas and experiences are intense, almost triggering at some points. Many of them turned out to be useful, or interesting, later, but again, this is a no holds barred , full speed ahead kind of person, and thats how she presents things. If you have OCD right now, font plan on reading this straight through. If you are just curious what it can be like, its a pretty good depiction. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on November 10, 2020 by Laura Lake

  • perfectly imperfect
I absolutely loved this book and the authors way of allowing us into her beautiful mind. What an incredible journey of inner healing! Kamee
Reviewed in the United States on March 4, 2024 by Kamee

  • Outstanding book on OCD.
Reading some books is like "Damn. How did you get inside my head? I relate to Shala's story on so many levels. I completely understand her desire for perfection and affirmation. I share her people pleasing tenancies. I also have struggled with OCD for many years. I started having intrusive thoughts at the age of 8. OCD was never even on my radar until last month. The more I learned about OCD the more things made sense and clicked into place. Like Shala, I did about 10 years of traditional talk therapy. I did everything I was supposed to. I tried different counselors. I went weekly for over 2 years. Yet, I never made progress. In fact, I felt worse at the end than I did at the beginning. I never even considered OCD as a possibility until I listened to a podcast where the host interviewed a woman from North Carolina who lives with OCD. The podcast sometimes addressed mental health, but that was not the main focus. As I listened to the guest tell her story, I was shocked to realized I had many of the thoughts. Was it possible that I could really have OCD and not know it for well over half my life? I threw myself into researching OCD. I listened to OCD podcasts, I read books, I even reached out to the guest from the podcast. The more I learned about OCD, the more I realized the truth. I hot a therapist that specializes in ERP and understands OCD. I was terrified to tell my counselor about my intrusive thoughts. Her expression didn't even change. My first session with my therapist was a 90 minute OCD assessment. I fully expected her to tell me I didn't meet the criteria for OCD. Instead, I was officially diagnosed with OCD at the age of 45. I can tell you that Shala has not exaggerated the misery and mental torture that comes with OCD. She tells the full, ugly truth. There were parts that were hard to read because they hit way too close to home. I am still in treatment. ERP is not fun or easy, but it works. I have definitely made progress. Am I currently in recovery? No. But I WILL get there. I have been feeling very discouraged lately. But this book gave me the motivation to keep going. If you have OCD, you NEED to read this book. If a friend or family member has OCD and you want to get a better idea of what a person with OCD goes through, read this book. Mental illness is stigmatized, but OCD is one of the most stigmatized and misunderstand. It is often joked about .phrases like "Everyone is a little OCD" and "I'm so OCD" are tossed around casually. But OCD is not funny or a joke. It is hell. The mental torment unrelenting. For a person with OCD, its not as simple as "Just don't think about it" Recovery is not quick or easy. Its messy. Setbacks and relapses will happen. But recovery is possible. Thank you Shala for telling your story with such honesty. Thank you for being willing to admit you still struggle rather than wrapping everything up in a neat little bow. You have made me feel more hopeful and less alone. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on September 29, 2021 by LMS

  • Blew it out of the water
I rarely write reviews, but just finished this book after being recommended it by my dietitian. I feel like this book deserves a standing ovation! Nearly every obsession Shala shared I could relate to and felt like she was in my head. I feel like this book takes you on a true journey- I hurt for her struggle with OCD, I laughed, I cried.. Brilliant book about living with OCD & how we can find true healing. Everything in my life makes so much more sense reading anothers account of OCD and I am excited to continue the work myself with an OCD specialized therapist. Bravo! ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on December 30, 2022 by Madison

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