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Speak Up and Get Along!: Learn the Mighty Might, Thought Chop, and More Tools to Make Friends, Stop Teasing, and Feel Good About Yourself

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What if every kid had a handy toolbox of ways to get along with others? That’s just what this book is: a collection of 21 concrete strategies kids can pull out and use to express themselves, build relationships, end arguments and fights, halt bullying, and beat unhappy feelings. Like the Mighty Might, which takes all the fun out of teasing. And the Thought Chop, which helps kids resist self-defeating thoughts. And the Squeaky Wheel, a type of persistence that gets results. And the Coin Toss, a simple way to resolve small conflicts. Each tool is clearly described, illustrated with true-to-life examples, and accompanied by dialogue and lines kids can practice and use. Stories and anecdotes show each tool in action. A terrific resource for any young person—and any adult committed to teaching social skills. Includes a note to adults. Part of the Bully Free Kids™ line Read more

Publisher ‏ : ‎ Free Spirit Publishing; First Edition (June 15, 2005)


Language ‏ : ‎ English


Paperback ‏ : ‎ 128 pages


ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1575421828


ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 27


Reading age ‏ : ‎ 5 - 11 years, from customers


Lexile measure ‏ : ‎ 790L


Grade level ‏ : ‎ 3 - 6


Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 6.4 ounces


Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6.25 x 0.5 x 9 inches


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  • Fantastic resource for kids in grade-school and middle school and especially for parents.
I am so glad I took a chance on this little book! What a gold mine. My 8-year old son and 12-year old daughter highly recommend it, as do I (I’m 45). My son was being teased for being small for his age and a little hard to understand (tools 11, 12, and 14 were spot-on and help a good deal). My daughter is having trouble making friends at her new school and feels there must be something wrong with her or she wouldn’t be having such a hard time (the section on making and keeping friends and tool 19, the thought chop, is helping her work through this). I agree with the other reviewers who said it’s a helpful refresher for parents as well. The writing is simple and funny, and the examples, which are mostly school-related, are great. My second grader can read this book himself. We all read the book and practiced the strategies together. This book can help open avenues of communication between you and your kids and give them the tools and confidence to handle common problems. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on April 24, 2019 by Mcp Mcp

  • Sticks and stones in karate classes
I've used "Speak Up and Get Along" as an in-class textbook for my Karate students, both children and adults, with great success. The simple lessons and role-play exercises are easy to understand, and simple to use, even with children who are just starting to read. The organization of the book, using various types of birds as images to illustrate an entire suite of social skills, is very helpful as well -- the tools of the Blue Jay are all about being assertive when you need to. I've recommended this book to a number of my professional colleagues, many of whom are using it with their students (and children) as well. A useful companion volume is "Sticks and Stones", also by Scott Cooper. It shares the same basic structure, with additional explanations, scripts for parents/teachers, and additional role-plays. A word about the role-plays: be prepared to practice with them several times to really internalize the skills involved. Running through them once or twice and then just moving on to the next thing is won't get you very far in acquiring usable skills from the text. Practice with them over and over, just as you would to learn a new martial arts technique. Don't confuse understanding the various tools here with the ability to actually use them -- that takes dedicated practice. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on February 8, 2009 by Broadway Family Karate

  • Will help your child handle many difficult situations!
I cannot begin to explain how helpful this has been for my 11 year old middle schooler. She is painfully shy and awkward and other kids tease her. She doesn't know how to handle these kids and doesn't know what to say. We went through through half of this book on our Thanksgiving drive. It had so many current and relevant scenarios and exactly what to say when they occur. We all practiced role-playing and made up extra scenarios too. The main theme is that every situation should be dealt with thoughtfulness and calm, instead of with anger. I have noticed my daughter more relaxed and happy since we read the book. She feels she can handle difficult situations now. She asks for us to make up scenarios that she has to handle, so she is really building her confidence. Thank you for writing this book. Highly recommend! ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on December 3, 2019 by Tradegirl

  • Speaking confidently
I enjoyed reading this book. It had great examples and was well arranged. My boys (school age) found this helpful as they are both a bit shy and needed some more encouragement to stand up and shine.
Reviewed in the United States on December 27, 2013 by Johanna Bickerstaff

  • Great when you read with your kids
My daughter is only six years old, but she battles not so much with bullies, but with her perception of what people think of her based on how personally she takes things they say. I didn't find the part about dealing with the bullies too useful at this age, although sounded great for older kids because it is very broken down from why they might be acting out to what exactly you could say, but the information on how to deal with your own thoughts and realize when you or your child might have "everything is terrible" thoughts and how to deal with them is outstanding. I always say "try to stay and think positive and look at the bright side" but the tools they have here and the specific examples are broken down in a much more useful way that helps them understand HOW to make something positive. Being so young, I'm hoping she can adapt these tools and build on them for the rest of her life. Some of this would even be helpful for adults that are always seeing the bad side and expecting the worst. Reading it with her helps me to reinforce the ideas later on the way they explained it and I can also add a few examples of my own that are personally fit to her issues. The Thought Chop and But Twist are very strong tools that can change so much. For those two tools alone, I give this five stars, but there is so much more information in here to help kids deal with life. Not everything will apply to your situation, but find the stuff that does and you won't be sorry. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on June 6, 2011 by Gina H2O

  • Fabulous Resource
I use this book frequently as a school counselor - the skills taught are simple but highly effective and kid-friendly. My students connect with the situations described and are able to integrate the tools into their daily lives. I created a 'notes' page where students write the steps for each tool and we go over two or three a week. After 6 weeks, they still remembered the strategies and when to use them! This is a great resource for a very low price. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on December 26, 2013 by planner mom

  • This will help kids of any age
Well written. An easy read but younger kids may need to read with parent. There is so much practical advice and tips. This book will make it easier to make friends and fit in.
Reviewed in the United States on August 20, 2021 by Placeholder

  • nice book
I bought this to help my 2nd grade son learn how to deal with the "not so nice" people he sometimes runs into at school. This book is easy to read and gets the conversation started about what to do and when to do it. It gives examples of kids at school which my son can relate to. I am glad we got this book. ... show more
Reviewed in the United States on April 30, 2013 by jackie05

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